I blamed myself because I couldn’t moderate my drinking

Like Gwyneth Paltrow I’m a big believer in ‘conscious uncoupling’.

Unlike Gwyneth though, my conscious uncoupling hasn’t been from my partner (although there are days when I’m tempted!).

Mine has been from alcohol – white wine in particular.

“What does that even mean?” you may ask.

When I was struggling to cut back on my drinking, I was relying on willpower. And when that didn’t work, I’d blame myself.

After years of trying and failing, I realised that using willpower to curb my drinking was just not working.

If you want to know why, you can read my free guide: “Four reasons why moderation is so difficult”.

Instead I tried something else – I tuned into my beliefs and thoughts around alcohol which included:

  • drinking helps me de-stress
  • wine helps me to socialise 
  • it’s my treat

A lot of this was subconscious.

In my mind it was simply ‘true’. 

Becoming curious

It was only when I started to get curious about why I drank and approached it by questioning these subconscious thoughts, did I finally make a change.

I started to realise that alcohol wasn’t helping me to de-stress, socialise or give me a boost (in fact, it was doing the opposite).

And that realisation helped me to change the way that I drank.

It was my version of conscious uncoupling … and it worked!

What’s more, I didn’t feel deprived or as if I was missing out. And, I wasn’t relying on willpower.

If you’re interested in finding out more about this approach and how it works feel free to book in a free discussion call.

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