Like Gwyneth Paltrow I’m a big believer in ‘conscious uncoupling’.
Unlike Gwyneth though, my conscious uncoupling hasn’t been from my partner (although there are days when I’m tempted!).
Mine has been from alcohol – white wine in particular.
“What does that even mean?” you may ask.
When I was struggling to cut back on my drinking, I was relying on willpower. And when that didn’t work, I’d blame myself.
After years of trying and failing, I realised that using willpower to curb my drinking was just not working.
If you want to know why, you can read my free guide: “Four reasons why moderation is so difficult”.
Instead I tried something else – I tuned into my beliefs and thoughts around alcohol which included:
- drinking helps me de-stress
- wine helps me to socialise
- it’s my treat
A lot of this was subconscious.
In my mind it was simply ‘true’.
It was only when I started to get curious about why I drank and approached it by questioning these subconscious thoughts, did I finally make a change.
I started to realise that alcohol wasn’t helping me to de-stress, socialise or give me a boost (in fact, it was doing the opposite).
And that realisation helped me to change the way that I drank.
It was my version of conscious uncoupling … and it worked!
What’s more, I didn’t feel deprived or as if I was missing out. And, I wasn’t relying on willpower.
If you’re interested in finding out more about this approach and how it works feel free to book in a free discussion call.