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How did you stop worrying about how much you were drinking?

For years I tried to moderate my drinking but everything I tried seemed to make things worse, not better. I would try to drink only two or three glasses of wine … then would feel like I’d failed when I ended up drinking more. I tried to restrict myself to only drinking on weekends …Continue reading “How did you stop worrying about how much you were drinking?”

Why do you like to drink and why it’s an important question to ask?

Last week I wrote about how powerful it was for me to write a list of all the reasons why I wanted to take back control of my drinking. Why was it so important? Because it confirmed to me that I needed to make a change to the way I was drinking. It made me realise thatContinue reading “Why do you like to drink and why it’s an important question to ask?”

The power in asking why you want to change your drinking

Several years ago I got to the point where I’d had enough of the way I was drinking and, more importantly, how it was making me feel. I was sick of thinking about it all the time (planning when and how much I would drink, worrying about it, planning ways to cut back) I wasContinue reading “The power in asking why you want to change your drinking”

How mindful drinking changed the way I drank

Mindfulness seems to be the mental health cure-all of our times. Feeling stressed and overwhelmed? Mediate every day. Eating too much? Try mindful eating. Want to shrug off the stresses of everyday life? Do some forest breathing (that’s walking in nature if you were wondering!) It seems that there is a mindfulness practice for everythingContinue reading “How mindful drinking changed the way I drank”

“I’m stressed and drinking too much – any advice?”

In the ‘Dear Rach’ series I answer questions about drinking and alcohol. If you have a question you’d like me to answer, please email me. Dear Rach, My life recently has been very stressful. My husband and I are going through a rough patch, my teenage daughter has become very withdrawn and I’m worried that myContinue reading ““I’m stressed and drinking too much – any advice?””

“How much did you drink?” Why I realised that was the wrong question

When I first decided to take a break from drinking, a few people asked me how much I was drinking. They didn’t come right out and say it but I could guess they were thinking something along the lines of “Oh my God – I didn’t realise she was that bad”! I would guess thatContinue reading ““How much did you drink?” Why I realised that was the wrong question”

How can I change the way I drink?

The question – “How can I change the way I drink?” – was recently sent through to me and I thought it was one that many of you may have. It was certainly a question I struggled with. After years of trying to moderate my drinking (spoiler alert: it didn’t work) I finally changed theContinue reading “How can I change the way I drink?”

Podcast interview: How to give up alcohol and still have a social life

I really enjoyed my conversation on the Menopause, Marriage and Motherhood podcast chatting with Karen O’Connor about the reasons I chose to go alcohol free. why I chose to take a break from drinking,  why you don’t have to hit a rock bottom to rethink your drinking and  that your social life doesn’t have toContinue reading “Podcast interview: How to give up alcohol and still have a social life”

Ask me anything: Why am I able to drink more than I used to?

Many years ago I had a night away with a friend where, over the course of the evening, we polished off two bottles of wine. We were sharing our experiences of being newly separated single mothers who were struggling to make ends meet and, while it might sound a bit glum, we also had aContinue reading “Ask me anything: Why am I able to drink more than I used to?”

I knew my drinking had to change, I just didn’t know how to do it

For years I struggled with my drinking, wanting to cut back but finding it difficult to do so. The mental energy I spent on trying to figure out what I needed to do was exhausting. The conversation in my head went something like this: “But everyone around me drinks like me.” “It’s getting scary thatContinue reading “I knew my drinking had to change, I just didn’t know how to do it”