“How much did you drink?” Why I realised that was the wrong question

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When I first decided to take a break from drinking, a few people asked me how much I was drinking.

They didn’t come right out and say it but I could guess they were thinking something along the lines of “Oh my God – I didn’t realise she was that bad”!

I would guess that they also wanted to benchmark their own drinking – if I was drinking more than them, then they were ‘safe’.

I get it because I had been asking the same questions myself.

However, I started to realise that asking “how much is too much?” was the wrong question.

So were the questions: “Have I hit rock bottom” or “Am I an alcoholic?”

The question I should have been asking was: “Is the way I’m drinking serving me well?”

I had this conversation during my recent Present and Sober Podcast interview with hosts Sam and Ellie.

On the podcast we also talked about:

  • How I struggled to moderate my drinking thinking there was something wrong with me because I found it so difficult
  • My concerns about what my drinking was doing to my health
  • My fears around taking a break
  • How my drinking changed when I separated from the father of my children

You can click here to listen to the podcast episode or search for the Present and Sober Podcast wherever you listen to your podcasts.

Are you questioning your drinking?

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